Every day people struggle with interpersonal relationships. But with Valentine’s Day on the horizon these struggles can become a prime focus. Just as all relationships have their special moments, they all also have the potential for problems – separation of responsibilities or lack of sexual intimacy to name a few. But one of the biggest issues couples struggle with in an intimate relationship is togetherness.

Finding the balance for togetherness in an intimate relationship is like a balancing act. If you lean too much to either the “separate” side or to the “together” side, you’re likely to fall off your healthy relationship “tight rope.” To understand how this balance comes into play, we first need to analyze the importance of each side.

It may seem obvious that spending time together within an intimate relationship will increase the “togetherness” factor. But there’s a difference between being together and simply being in proximity to each other. Being home at the same time but sitting in front of the computer or the television may not count as quality time. Instead, try doing activities that allow you to interact together, like cooking, walking, or camping. These activities can then become bonding experiences. What’s more, they allow you to build up positive memories, which can help sustain your relationship when times are tough.

That being said, too much together time in an intimate relationship can be just as detrimental. After all, you’re still two different people, with different needs and interests. Not having enough time to explore your individual interests can make your otherwise healthy relationship feel suffocating. Spending time apart also gives you more stories to share with your partner when you are together, which makes that time more special, interesting, and exciting.

After seeing both sides of the issue it is easy to understand why balance is needed to achieve togetherness in a healthy relationship. Communication is key in making this happen. For some, the communication side of the issue can be just as big as the togetherness concern itself. If that’s the case, consider seeking professional help. Apsychiatrist can help you work through your concerns, learn to communicate more effectively, and find the balance and healthy relationship you’ve been looking for.

For more information on balancing your healthy relationship and togetherness, contact Dr. David A. Gross in Delray Beach, Florida at 561-496-1281 or email Dr. Gross today.